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roachpatrol:

the-real-seebs:

kayinnasaki:

Cyber harassment study reveals the unsurprising!
It still amazes me that I talk to guys who still think they get harassed just as much as women online. Like even from people who aren’t clearly and totally gross dumbasses. It kinda makes me think that, even in the best cases, it might be hard to really understand the sheer difference in frequency. You see a woman get harassed on a game and you go “Oh well I’ve been harassed” without understanding that there is seldom a session for her where that doesn’t happen or understanding what her inbox might look like…

That is a sort of stunning degree of difference.

"The data’s in! Women were lying about online harassment!”
"Aha! We knew it!" 
“Yeah, they’ve been severely underreporting how bad things are for them, turns out.”
"Wait, what?"

(The full title of that IRC study is “Assessing the Attack Threat Due to IRC Channels” if you’re trying to find it—but it doesn’t appear to be available to read for free anymore.)

roachpatrol:

the-real-seebs:

kayinnasaki:

Cyber harassment study reveals the unsurprising!

It still amazes me that I talk to guys who still think they get harassed just as much as women online. Like even from people who aren’t clearly and totally gross dumbasses. It kinda makes me think that, even in the best cases, it might be hard to really understand the sheer difference in frequency. You see a woman get harassed on a game and you go “Oh well I’ve been harassed” without understanding that there is seldom a session for her where that doesn’t happen or understanding what her inbox might look like…

That is a sort of stunning degree of difference.

"The data’s in! Women were lying about online harassment!”

"Aha! We knew it!

Yeah, they’ve been severely underreporting how bad things are for them, turns out.”

"Wait, what?"

(The full title of that IRC study is “Assessing the Attack Threat Due to IRC Channels” if you’re trying to find it—but it doesn’t appear to be available to read for free anymore.)

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Anonymous asked: Hi! I was wondering why does pride community have such a strong prejudice towards asexuals?

life-of-an-asexual:

well, it’s a bunch of different things, actually. some people think it’s not a valid identity, that it’s impossible for someone to not experience sexual attraction at all, that everyone has to experience sexual attraction; that we’re “late bloomers”or we “just haven’t met the right person.” that’s where allosexism comes from

some think it’s because we’re not “oppressed enough,” just because we haven’t faced the same struggles as gay and bi and trans people; ignoring the fact that ace folks can be trans, and identify as gay/bi/etc based on romantic attraction, and also be people of color, who are always underrepresented in every branch of the queer community

some people think we’re not “queer enough” because we’re “straight passing” due to internalized heterosexism. this especially gets directed at aromantic and heteroromantic aces; since it’s apparently our fault that everyone assumes we’re straight unless stated otherwise or unless we’re a raging stereotype, and also disregarding that we’re definitely not “straight enough” by heterosexual opinion

some people think it’s a fad, that we’re doing it to be “special snowflakes.” this especially gets directed at gray-a and demi folks, because some people are incapable of understanding that sexuality exists on a spectrum; and also saying that demisexuality is “just how everyone is” because of not understanding or refusing to understand the actual definition

asexual women get the “that’s how all women are” or are accused of being brainwashed by the patriarchy into sexual repression, and that they can’t be feminist unless they embrace their sexuality. asexual men get told they’re “really just gay” and that they have internalized homophobia, or because of all the societal expectation to be super-sexual studs, they’re told it’s impossible for them to be asexual

trans aces get told they’re only ace because they’re trans, or are only trans because they’re ace, or that they can’t be both ace and trans, because people are incapable of comprehending that sexuality does not affect gender. this especially gets directed at non binary aces, as we’re “just confused because [something to do with our genitals probably]”

some people think we want “special rights,” whatever that entails. some people think we need to get our heads checked, re: that asshole anon. some people think we “just need to try sex”. some people think we don’t deserve space because the queer community is about sex, which, i don’t even know. some people think we’re taking visibility away from other movements, disregarding that this isn’t a competition of who better appeals to the straight masses, we all deserve more and equal visibility

there’s probably more, but yeah, it’s a bunch of different stuff, and all of it bullshit

~Mod Q

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